Don't look at anyone other than your husband
- Updated On Monday, 02 February 2015
- Written by Ayatullah Ibrahim Amini
- Editor Kawther Rahmani
- Supervisor Sayyed Roohullah Musavi
- Published on Wednesday, 13 October 2010
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Before your marriage you may have had other offers of matrimony. These offers may be from rich, educated, handsome men, etc., whom you may have wished to marry. Such expectations were natural before your marriage. But now that you have chosen your partner and signed a sacred covenant with him to be together for the rest of your life, you must forget the past altogether. You must put aside your past wishes and forget those past offers. Do not think of any man except your husband and find peace with him. If you do otherwise, you will place yourself in an extremely anxious and strained condition. Now that you have agreed to live with your husband, why should you be constantly noticing other men? Why should you compare him with others? What do you achieve by looking at other men except putting yourself in a permanently miserable state and cause mental anguish for yourself? Imam Ali (A) stated: "Whoever leaves his eyes at liberty will always suffer through his nerves, and will be trapped in a permanent state of envy." (1) By looking at other men and comparing your husband with them, you will find a man who does not have your husband's faults. You might think that another man is perfect because you are not aware of his deficiencies. You would then regard your marriage as a failure and this thought might lead to disastrous ends. .........................................................................
References [1] Bihar al-Anwar, vol. 104, p. 38.